I have begun reading Stormie Omartian's book,"The Power of a Praying Wife". Wow, what an eye opener. I am understanding how my attitude toward my husband needs to change. Loving your spouse is not enough. You must also respect your husband and support him.
Here are some of the things I have learned:
The strength of a man and wife joined together in God's sight is far greater than the sum of the strengths of each person. That's because the Holy Spirit unites them and gives added power to their prayers.
If you pray for yourself and not for him, you will never find the blessings and fulfillment you want. What happens to him happens to you and you can't get around it. This oneness gives us a power that the enemy doesn't like. That's why he devises ways to weaken it. He gives us whatever we will fall for, whether it be low self esteem, pride, the need to be right, miscommunication, or the bowing to our own selfish desires. He will tell you likes. He will tell you whatever you will believe because he knows if he can get you to believe it, there is no future for your marriage.
When we are frustrated and angry in our marriage, we see things the way we want to, not from God's perspective. When we are miserable in our marriage we feel anything will be an improvement over what we are experiencing, but we don't see the whole picture. We don't see what God wants it become.
Praying for your husband will be an act of unselfish, unconditional love and sacrifice on your part. You must be willing to make this commitment knowing it is quite possible that he will never pray for you in the same way. In some cases, he may not pray at all. Whether he does or he doesn't is not your concern, it's God's.
Your happiness and fulfillment will not ride upon whether he prays, it will depend on your own relationship with the Lord.
The purpose of praying for your husband is to ask God to make your heart right, show you how to be a good wife, share the burdens of your soul, and seek God's blessings on your husband.
Look to God as the source of all you want to see happen in your marriage, and don't worry about how it will happen. It's your responsibility to pray. It's God's job to answer. Leave it in His hands.
So these things are just from the introduction to the book. I haven't even delved into Chapter One. Just wait...